Finding an alternative to ‘Reasonable’ (ugh!) and ‘sensible’ (dull) relationship solutions
In my experience, over time, many people (both men and women) have a low bar when they think about ‘what’s out there’ or what’s realistic’ in regards to engaging in a satisfying and nourishing relationship. It looks to me that many singles have become overly ‘reasonable’ and ‘sensible’.
As we’re about to launch our first men’s RR programme next month, I have been speaking with single guys about relationships and their strategy to make it work. I have been struck by how modified and complicated their expectations seem to be.
The conclusions they have reached, based on their previous experience, sets a very low bar (in my mind) for what’s possible for them in regards to finding an enjoyable and meaningful relationship.
But from my conversations, I can also see why someone could reach such conclusions and why so many people do.
In the search for love and connection we experience complications, challenges, problems in relationships; and all the bad experiences connected to them. These ‘life lessons’ tend to end up in a person’s memory bank. In order to avoid these problems in the future, we alter our expectations of what is realistic and draw conclusions about what is possible.
But what if your past relationship experiences are not a result of an experience of a set reality, but just a result of your previous thought system that you have been playing out in your engagement with others, that has been largely invisible?
The next question to ask yourself is what if you were no longer restricted by those thoughts that have lead you to previous outcomes? What if dissolving these limitations could allow you to raise your own bar and reconsider what is possible for you!
On this programme you will not be taught how to think differently, but how to see and feel these invisible thought limitations so you no longer have to be held back by them.
You will learn to see what makes sense to you naturally from there. We can give you the navigation system to find your own fresh path and the capability to be your own relationship expert.